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The Most Important Part of Pursuing Your Husband

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We’ve talked about a lot this month: From, what does it look like to pursue your husband, to figuring out his love language and rediscovering who he is, and where sex falls into all of thisThere’s one part we haven’t talked about, the most important part of pursuing your husband: YOU!

That’s right, despite all of the things we’ve talked about this month YOU are the most important part of pursuing your husband, and it’s for a very simple reason….he’s married to you. Now before you think that I’m going to give you all of these idealistic thoughts about what you need to be doing to yourself to pursue your husband, adding more things to feel guilty about when you can’t accomplish them, I’m not. What I am going to do is tell you one very simple thing….

You can’t impart what you don’t possess….
Chip Ingram

What does that mean? It means if you’re tank isn’t full, this whole pursuing-your-husband-thing is not going anywhere.

I want you to take a very long and deep look into your own heart, into your own life, and decide where you can cut back. Your kids don’t need to be involved in numerous activities, you don’t need to have the big house and the fancy cars, you don’t need to have the latest shoes or hair products….and I’m not saying having those things is unnecessary. What I am saying is there are places in your life where you can re-prioritize: Where you can find a few minutes here and there to fill yourself up.

We’ve become obsessed in our society with doing as much as we can while being empty. We praise the ones who manage to seemingly do it all, but the reality is doing it all leaves us very alone and very exhausted. I want you to think about the things that make you feel beautiful, that make you feel alive and do them for yourself. Maybe it’s taking time for a hobby, maybe it’s putting a nicer outfit on.

If you feel alive and beautiful you will be in a place that you are desiring to give and pour into others, and now, with a month full of prayers and ideas, you will be better able to pour into your husband without expecting him to reciprocate to you. Don’t wait for your husband to make you feel beautiful, do it for yourself, because YOU ARE WORTH IT!

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Pursuing Your Husband through What You Already Do

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Several years ago I wrote my 31Days series about using your busy work to bless others {I am working on updating all of the links for that series}, that is what we’re talking about today: How you can take the things you already do and tweak them to pursue your husband. I promise you it’s not as hard as it sounds, and very often it simply requires more of a change of heart and than anything else.

Pray about this. Pray that you would be able to do the tasks before you with a joyful heart. That you will be able to check them off and be able to tell your husband, “Hey, I got that _____ done.” These next few links are for several ways that you can pursue your husband through your busy work and how that looks.

Take your time reading through these other posts. Let them sink in deep, that you can start to see how you can use your busy work to bless and pursue your husband, to help him feel loved by you and your change of heart.

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Prioritizing a Change of Heart

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We talked about this in one of our very first sessionswhy we need to make our husbands a priority. There’s something that I need you to realize: The relationship we have with our husbands is the single most important relationship we will ever be in, next to our relationship with God. Sounds extreme doesn’t it, but it’s true. Our homes, our kids, our jobs, our lives will all go to pot if we don’t prioritize our marriages.

It’s hard…I totally get it. We feel like there is a constant gun to our heads when it comes to kids and jobs and housekeeping. The only one not holding a gun to our head is our husband, and most likely that’s because he has his own guns. Ask yourself: Can you afford to NOT prioritize your husband? Divorce is expensive, and not just in the monetary sense. It will cost you, your spouse, and your kids everything. *

We have a lot of demands on our time. I get that. How about we take some of those demands and use them to pursue our husbands. I know you’re thinking, “Seriously?! I’ve got enough on my plate.” This has more to do with a change of heart, than adding more things to your to do list. There are so many things that we do, as the wife, that we end up doing begrudgingly. Feeling as though our husband should take the initiative to do those things.

Tomorrow I’m going to talk about what this can look like, but today, I want you to think about the myriad of things you already do in your home and how you can do them differently, so as to bless and pursue your husband.

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Prioritizing your Husband

Pursuing your Husband 31 Days of Tips, Tricks, Prayers, How Tos, & Why Tos to Build a More Intentional Passion with Your Husband @JessicaMWhite.com

When it comes to your friends, what kind of friend are you? Do you go out of your way to help them? Spend time with them? Now, do you the same for your husband? We all stumble on this one. Often the people who are closest and dearest to us are the ones that get put on the back-burner. Kids are rather demanding so the chances it is them, is slim to none; but our husbands….that’s another story.

This week we’re going to talk about pursuing our husbands through our priorities. I’m not talking just about making him a priority, this whole month has been about that. What I’m talking about is how you can pursue him by being more intentional in doing things for him. Whether it’s in the doing of little love notes and baking goodies or in taking a few things off of his plate.

Let me explain how this is going to work: We all appreciate it when someone does something for us, when they lighten our load. We especially appreciate it if our love language is acts of service. When we go out of way to do things for someone we are showing them that they are important to us, that the little things they may or may not ask of us are important to us, because THEY are important to us.

We get busy, we forget to do things {or become annoyed when asked to do them}, and in the forgetting we stop prioritizing our husbands. We make them feel that they’ve become another burden for us, rather than someone we WANT to be with and do things for, and that’s just not pursuing our husbands.

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a Prayer for Our Husbands

Lord,
Help us, as wives, to be willing to put in the hard work, the hard questions, the hard answers…to be willing to do the hard of passionately pursuing our husbands.
Help us to go outside of our comfort zones, to be willing to physically pursue our husbands, to fulfill their needs.
In the name of your son, Jesus.
Amen

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