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What if you knew you could NEVER be unfriended? Would you be willing to take more risks in the making and keeping of friends? Friendship has been a struggle for me, it always has. I’ve never fit comfortably into any one group. It’s only as I’ve gotten older that I’ve realized that’s OK, I don’t have to. Although, even knowing that hasn’t made finding and keeping friends any easier.
Lisa-Jo opens her heart and shares all of her hurt and lonely places when it comes to friendship, in her new book, new book Never Unfriended. The opportunities that she missed, the friends she lost, and the hurt she has felt. But she also shares hope! Lisa-Jo tells about how she has been rewarded with rich, deep friendships when she has been willing to take a risk, step out of her comfort zone, and be the first to extend the scary hand of friendship. But it all starts with one thing…. Putting aside being “Fine”.
That word, that inability to be REAL is the absolute death-knell of EVERY SINGLE FRIENDSHIP AND OPPORTUNITY FOR FRIENDSHIP!
Fine is so dangerous, isn’t it? Fine means the end of a conversation; the beginning of nothing…Sure, it can be excruciating to admit our un-fine moments, but it’s in those moments that people can actually see us to help us. We need people. We are a body. And if one part is all bashed up and bleeding, it hurts everywhere else. (page 86)
Lisa-Jo does an awesome job tackling the topic of fine, because all other parts of friendship stem from this one truth.
If we can’t even start being real, we will never get anywhere.
Lisa-Jo goes on further in her book, addressing how comparison will rob us blind in friendship. How if we allow ourselves to fall into the trap of looking at what everyone else is and has we will wallow in our own inadequacies. Until we are mired down with so much filth that we won’t be able to see anything but.
Lisa-Jo’s writing is so engaging and fun. She’s light hearted and funny, but no less substantial in her words. She’s able to tell a story, share hard things, without feeling like she’s beating you over the head with a should-do list. Her heart is for friendship, that women would come alongside each other in community and love each other as Christ would have us do.
Never Unfriended is available everywhere, including on Amazon.com .
Lisa-Jo Baker has been the community manager for www.incourage.me, an online home for women all over the world, for nearly a decade. She is also the author of Surprised by Motherhood, and her writings have been syndicated from New Zealand to New York. She lives just outside Washington, DC, with her husband and their three very loud kids, where she connects, encourages, and champions women in person and through her popular blog, lisajobaker.com
***You can read my disclosure policy here. I received the above book for free, to review, but it was honestly so good that I’ve bought several copies to pass along ;-)