In November 2005, after 5 1/2 years of dating, my husband and I were married and we decided to start our family right away…one year went by, two years, three.
In May 2008 we finally received a diagnosis, leaving us entirely unsure as to how our pathway to parenthood would then go.
We were beyond angry at God: What had we done to deserve this?
God had already been working in our hearts. With nearly constant prayer that if it was not His will that we be parents, that He remove our desire. He didn’t, it grew stronger, knowing that we would do all that we had to to be parents.
Our little girl was born on November 1, 2009, Avelyn… meaning “wished for” or “longed for child” {in it’s original Gaelic form of Aibhlinn} .
Infertility is a heart-wrenching, faith-questioning, relationship-testing, life-altering experience. I know it brought my husband and I to our knees and fortunately closer to each other and God (which I know is the only reason we got through it and are still getting through it).
I’ve seen it destroy the marriages of coworkers and friends, and I’ve also seen it bring people together, giving them courage to go forward. Infertility will make you rethink your “I would never”s: We did.
We don’t regret our pathway for a minute and thank God for the awesome blessing that is our two daughters and two sons. Regardless of the means used, life can only be given by God. He is the author of our existence and uses all to His Glory.
Please feel free to contact me with any questions you have about our infertility: We may not be “open” to everyone about the details of our struggles, but I’m more than willing to talk about infertility.
