Our Infertility Story

In November 2005, after 5 1/2 years of dating, my husband and I were married and we decided to start our family right away…one year went by, two years, three.

In May 2008 we finally received a diagnosis, leaving us entirely unsure as to how our pathway to parenthood would then go.

We were beyond angry at God: What had we done to deserve this?

God had already been working in our hearts. With nearly constant prayer that if it was not His will that we be parents, that He remove our desire. He didn’t, it grew stronger, knowing that we would do all that we had to to be parents.

Through God’s grace, lots of prayer, and our fantastic RE Clinic, just as we had given up hope, on our third attempt: Life began. At just 5 1/2 weeks we saw our daughter for the first time, her heart just beating away.For this child I have prayed.

Our little girl was born on November 1, 2009, Avelyn… meaning “wished for” or “longed for child” {in it’s original Gaelic form of Aibhlinn} .

We started trying for #2 in September 2010, after 2 failed cycles, it was magic try number 3 {again – funny how God continually brought us to the point of despair, to our knees before Him, before giving us our hearts desires}: Triplets.
Our miracles were born at 34 weeks, on December 22, 2011: Our sons, Henry and James weighing in at  4lbs 13.5 ounces and 5lbs 3 ounces, and our daughter, Elanor, at 4lbs 9 ounces.
We had always joked that if we hadn’t had to deal with infertility we would have been pregnant with #4. God, in His ever astounding humor, saw fit to get us all caught up at once!
In September 2014, we decided to try one more time to add to our family. Much to our surprise and our absolute joy I was pregnant after our first cycle, the only cycle we would be able to do. On June 16, 2015 our third son, Peter, was born at home.

Infertility is a heart-wrenching, faith-questioning, relationship-testing, life-altering experience. I know it brought my husband and I to our knees and fortunately closer to each other and God (which I know is the only reason we got through it and are still getting through it).

I’ve seen it destroy the marriages of coworkers and friends, and I’ve also seen it bring people together, giving them courage to go forward. Infertility will make you rethink your “I would never”s: We did.

We don’t regret our pathway for a minute and thank God for the awesome blessing that is our two daughters and two sons. Regardless of the means used, life can only be given by God. He is the author of our existence and uses all to His Glory.

Please feel free to contact me with any questions you have about our infertility: We may not be “open” to everyone about the details of our struggles, but I’m more than willing to talk about infertility.

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