From Busy to Blessing

We hear this a lot, that we need to “Love on others”. We do, but what does that mean? It means showing them that they are loved through our actions.

What’s the fastest way to a man’s heart? His stomach, right. What are his favorite meals? Favorite desserts? Are they healthy? Can you make them the same way he likes without sacrificing their being wholesome?

Spend the time learning your man’s stomach, what he likes and doesn’t like. My mom, after almost 30 years of marriage, discovered that my dad didn’t really like broccoli, which we had quite regularly because the rest of us did. Oops. {Mind you this has become a big joke in our family, because it is such a silly little thing in the middle of a strong, healthy marriage.}

Has he had a hard day at work? Give him 2 minutes of attention. Whether it’s letting him vent, giving him a massage or some other thing that will help him to relax. Let him know that you are there for him, that you care about him and his day.

Sex. There I’ve said it. Most men, respond really well to sex {surprise, surprise!}. Most women, aren’t as willing to love on their husband’s in this way, for a variety of reasons and some women are. Put yourself aside, many times if  you change your actions the heart will follow. Talk to your husband, find out how you can, quite literally, serve him better.

Learn his love language: Rediscover this man that you’ve been with for 5 months, 5 years or 5 decades. This is the man that you’ve promised to stand by for the rest of your life, to love and to cherish. How much more important could anything be than keeping this relationship in good standing, after the work day, after the kids are grown, it’s going to be just the two of you. Better to keep in touch now, than to have to reacquaint yourself with each other in 20 or 30 years.

I hope this weeks posts have given you a few new ideas about how you can take the busy work you’re already doing and continue to love on your husband more deeply.

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This seems rather ridiculous doesn’t it. You probably already keep the family schedule and are constantly reminding your husband of family plans and things that need to get done. How about doing it in a way that can bless him; rather than just being a nag.

You know what the difference is between nagging and blessing? The heart. Plain and simple. A change of heart is what makes all the difference.

Keep track of those things that are needed to be planned for and organized, whether it’s inspections and repairs of vehicles or other deadlines that fall into the “That’s not my responsibility…” category. You know as well as I do what things need to be planned for and organized. You’re probably already doing a lot of it.

“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do
to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”
Luke 7:12

Tell your husband, “Hey your/my car is do for an inspection: What day works best to get it into the shop?” Then be the one to call and make the appointment. “Hey, you need to schedule a dentist/eye doctor appointment: When do you want to do that?”

These are things that are so easy to bless your husband with. You are taking the extra burden off of him, of being the one to deal with all these logistical headaches. You can also give him a good surprise. “Sweetie, don’t forget we have that {fill in the blank} on Thursday night. We need to leave by 7pm.” Surprise him with a impromptu date night, rather than just another thing on the schedule.

For some of you this may not work, you may not be the one who normally handles these kinds of things. You may still feel like you’re nagging him so he doesn’t forget important appointments. Whatever it is you can ask your husband what you can do to lighten his load a bit, and you can do it with a cheerful heart.

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