Yesterday we talked about learning what our husband’s love language is. They’re guys, we’re girls, so the chances is pretty good that what speaks love to us is different than our husband. If you’ve been able to pinpoint at least 1 or 2 ways in which your husband feels loved, I want you to spend a few minutes today thinking about what the application of that is going to look like {check out this website for more information}.

There may be certain things that you and your husband are complete opposites on…maybe he likes the house to be really tidy and you do what you can, or he’s bringing you little gifts, but you really don’t care much one way or another if you get a gift. Look at what you’re husband DOES DO for you, chances are if he’s doing them for you, it’s because that is his love language.

Reciprocate! If he is always telling you I love you or wanting to hug/kiss…be the one to initiate it! Turn around and say/do it first. If he likes the house tidy, take a few minutes extra and clear at least one space for him…I guarantee, even if he doesn’t say anything, he will notice it. It is in our nature to love people as we want to be loved.

If you’re at a point that you and your husband are pretty much two ships at sea and really not having much interaction. PURSUE YOUR HUSBAND! Ask him what is one thing you can do to make his day better. He may say nothing, he may say something, but then don’t hem and haw about what he asked….DO IT! You’re actually taking your husband at his word will show that he means something to you. Remember this whole pursuing your husband is not about you, it’s about loving your husband well.

If you’re looking for ideas to be romantic, to put your husband love language into action be sure to check out the book 1001 Ways to Be Romantic by Gregory Godek.  Tomorrow we’ll talk more about rediscovering WHO your husband is.

*Find more posts from this series here: Pursuing Your Husband.

One of the best books out there on how to pursue your husband better is Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. The basic premise of the book is learning what your and your spouse’s love language is…the things that specifically make one feel loved. There’s 5 languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. I’m not going to get too into it, but suffice it to say, go check out the book, or at the very least the website {there is a quiz on there to help you figure what your love language is}.

The whole idea of learning your husband’s love language is very simple so that you are better able to pursue him in a way that actually holds meaning to him; not that you’re putting forth tons of effort in a certain way that means nothing to them. This happens for most couples, particularly when their love languages aren’t the same.

If you can’t figure your husband’s love language on your own, ask if he’d take the quiz, or just ask him: “What are 3 things that I can do that make you feel loved?” Here’s a hint: I guarantee one of them will be food 😉 You’re welcome! Once you know your husband’s love language you will be better able to pursue him, without wasting your efforts.

*Find more posts from this series here: Pursuing Your Husband.