You have to decide for yourself what Pursuing Your Husband looks like. This weekend I want you to be intentional, to really think about your life, your priorities, how your days look, and every aspect of the things that fill your hours. Think about them. Think about how you can make tiny changes. How you can eek out a few seconds here and there to pursue your husband.

Pursuing your husband is not about doing, so that he will do for you.

Once you figure out that, you can figure out just what pursuing your husband is going to look like for YOU. Whether that be an elaborate series of events and actions, or smaller, but still meaningful. The point of this thought-time is that you want to come up with a reasonable expectation for this month, what you have time and means to accomplish.

Put your own expectations of what your husband should do for you aside.

There is one minor stipulation in this endeavor….let it go. I want you to let go of your expectations. Let go of what you think your husband should do, whether he notices or reciprocates is not what this is about. I know this sounds easy, but it’s not.

Completely putting aside the very idea of your husband reciprocating your pursuit, is the only way you can do this without becoming bitter. That you’re doing all this work and he doesn’t even acknowledge, let alone do something in return for you. Can you do that? It’s honestly going to be the hardest part of this series.

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Welcome to 31 Days of Pursuing Your Husband! I’m so excited you’re here! On my old blog {LifeintheWhiteHouse.com} one of my most popular posts was about little ways that one could pursue their husbands: Simple, daily things that we could say or do that would restore our husbands to a place of priority in our lives.

I honestly wasn’t going to do 31 Days this year, but then it became very obvious to me that I needed to do this series for ME. That’s right for me. I certainly consider myself to be no authority on this topic, but I am intent on becoming more intentional in my marriage and my relationship with my husband.

We’ve always had a fantastic relationship {we started dating a few months shy of my 18th birthday}, and while we didn’t take that for guaranteed we never had to really work at it…it came easily to us. Somethings happened over the past few years though: We dealt with infertility, we had our daughter, then had our triplets, then moved into my in-laws’ basement while doing massive home renovations, then we had our 5th child, all while trying to live our daily life, and now starting a new business. It’s been a crazy ride.

During all that time, it’s during the past year that our marriage has suffered the most. We didn’t so much drift apart as we did just stand back to back dealing with the every day onslaught, knowing the other one was there, but not having a moment to turn around and actually SEE each other. We knew the other had our back, but we knew they were busy with their responsibilities and we stopped confiding in each other, stopped “bothering” the other with our daily stuff {for lack of a better word}, and it became really lonely. {Word of advice…never stop bothering each other with life. It’s what your spouse is there for}.

I’m not promising that this series is going to fix everything in your marriage. It’s not, but I am hoping it’s a good place to start. There’s going to be homework, there are going to be hard things to think about, hard questions to ask and answer, but my prayer is that all of this helps you {and your husband} at the very least to communicate better, to be on the road to a better relationship.

Now. Before you think you have the perfect marriage and there’s nothing here for you, don’t worry…there is. Throughout this series I will be sprinkling ideas for you to love your husband well, even when life is crazy-busy and you don’t have a ton of time.

Let’s begin…

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