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Never Unfriended {a Review}

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What if you knew you could NEVER be unfriended? Would you be willing to take more risks in the making and keeping of friends? Friendship has been a struggle for me, it always has. I’ve never fit comfortably into any one group. It’s only as I’ve gotten older that I’ve realized that’s OK, I don’t have to. Although, even knowing that hasn’t made finding and keeping friends any easier.

Lisa-Jo opens her heart and shares all of her hurt and lonely places when it comes to friendship, in her new book, new book Never Unfriended. The opportunities that she missed, the friends she lost, and the hurt she has felt. But she also shares hope! Lisa-Jo tells about how she has been rewarded with rich, deep friendships when she has been willing to take a risk, step out of her comfort zone, and be the first to extend the scary hand of friendship. But it all starts with one thing…. Putting aside being “Fine”.

That word, that inability to be REAL is the absolute death-knell of EVERY SINGLE FRIENDSHIP AND OPPORTUNITY FOR FRIENDSHIP!

Fine is so dangerous, isn’t it? Fine means the end of a conversation; the beginning of nothing…Sure, it can be excruciating to admit our un-fine moments, but it’s in those moments that people can actually see us to help us. We need people. We are a body. And if one part is all bashed up and bleeding, it hurts everywhere else. (page 86)

Lisa-Jo does an awesome job tackling the topic of fine, because all other parts of friendship stem from this one truth.

If we can’t even start being real, we will never get anywhere.

Lisa-Jo goes on further in her book, addressing how comparison will rob us blind in friendship. How if we allow ourselves to fall into the trap of looking at what everyone else is and has we will wallow in our own inadequacies. Until we are mired down with so much filth that we won’t be able to see anything but.

Lisa-Jo’s writing is so engaging and fun. She’s light hearted and funny, but no less substantial in her words. She’s able to tell a story, share hard things, without feeling like she’s beating you over the head with a should-do list. Her heart is for friendship, that women would come alongside each other in community and love each other as Christ would have us do.

Never Unfriended is available everywhere, including on Amazon.com .


 

Lisa-Jo Baker has been the community manager for www.incourage.me, an online home for women all over the world, for nearly a decade. She is also the author of Surprised by Motherhood, and her writings have been syndicated from New Zealand to New York. She lives just outside Washington, DC, with her husband and their three very loud kids, where she connects, encourages, and champions women in person and through her popular blog, lisajobaker.com

***You can read my disclosure policy here. I received the above book for free, to review, but it was honestly so good that I’ve bought several copies to pass along ;-)

 

Do you listen to podcasts?

Over the last few years I’ve spent a bit more time listening to podcasts…they were great when riding back and forth to Albany for doctors appointments (2 hours one way). I’ve had a lot less time lately to listen to them, which has been kind of sad. One in particular I’ve made a concerted effort to listen to Sarah Werner’s Write Now Podcast, because I love it! IMG_5934

I don’t remember when or who I started listening to with Podcasts…I think maybe it was Kat Lee’s How They Blog, which I’m not even sure it exists anymore. I do know that she does Inspired to Action, which is another great blog. Anyways. It went from there to God Centered Mom and a whole bunch of other ones, a lot of them radio shows that I just never caught on the radio.

Then came the day that I just declared podcast bankruptcy because I couldn’t handle looking at the number of unplayed podcasts. In November I was looking for podcasts specifically about writing, which is when I found Sarah’s awesome podcast, which is what got me back into the whole listening to podcasts thing and wanting to BE a podcaster {I love them, I’d love to do one, I’d love to be on one…no idea what or who I would talk to}.

The thing I love about podcasts is how my mind can be engaged in something, while doing mindless stuff. I can learn something new, be entertained, inspired, or just about anything else while listening to a podcast and it doesn’t take away from my ability to perform any of the myriad of mindless activities that I need to do on a regular basis.

Just recently I started cleaning our church on a weekly basis which gives me a couple of hours of quiet time to listen to podcasts! Score! Until I got caught up on every podcast episode…now I am in need of some new material…WHICH IS WHERE YOU COME IN! What are your favorite podcasts? Why? Do you listen to every episode or pick and choose? And, if you DON’T listen to podcasts…why not?

What do I listen to?

I love Write Now Podcast, which I mentioned above. She does two different types, the more frequent ones are interviews, referred to as Coffee Breaks, and then there is the more technical/inspirational being a writer ones {which are my favorite!}. I have yet to listen to a Coffee Break, just because…my time was limited, but with cleaning I’m planning on delving more into them.

I also started listening to Modern Mrs. Darcy’s What Should I Read Next? The premise of the podcast is interviews and matchmaking between writers/readers and what they have been reading and what they should read next. It’s really a rather fascinating idea. I’ve been toying with the idea of doing something similar once a month on here.

I’ve already mentioned God Centered Mom and Inspired to Action, both of which I really enjoy. I just starte
d listening to Sorta Awesome with Megan Tietz, which is great, as is Tsh Oxenreider’s The simple Show. I do also enjoy listening to ProBlogger‘s podcast, but it’s more on the if-the-topic-interests-me basis, the same for Focus on the Family‘s daily broadcast.

I’ve really been looking for a family radio theater kind of podcast…either Lamplighter or something similar, but haven’t come across one. We love the Family Hour on Family Life Network, but it goes too late for our crew {they’re in bed by 7:30}.

What are your suggestions? What podcasts do you love? or maybe one that you listened to that you’re definitely not tuning in to again. Maybe you don’t even listen to podcasts. I want to hear from YOU!

From Busy to Blessing – Conclusion

I’m so glad you joined me this month, during my 31 Days of How to Use Your Martha to Be a Mary! I certainly hope that this little series has given you HOPE as to how you can bless those around you, despite an already busy schedule.
From Busy to Blessing How to Use Your Martha to Be a Mary @JessicaMWhite.comIt really is about priorities, about thinking a bit more about the things we’re already doing, and quite a bit about changing our hearts, because honestly, our hearts are where it all begins. Anything you do can be used for God’s glory and to bless others, as long as your heart is in it.

“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.”
Psalm 51:10

We don’t have to worry about the details or the hows or the whats: If we seek only to glorify Him, to step forward to do the work He has called us to do we will be successful.

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Matthew 6:33

Doing God’s work, doing what He has called us to do, doesn’t mean that we won’thave bumps in the road, that things will go absolutely perfectly. Sometimes those bumps are part of the road, part of the lesson that we have to learn…to trust Him and let go. Boy, would it be a lot easier to know we were doing His work if everything went without a hitch.

I continue to challenge you, to think beyond the immediate: There is a way that God has planned for you to bless those around you. Ask Him to show you how. It may not be something huge, it may not be as grandiose as you think it should be, it can be as simple as a smile on your face and His song in your heart, while you go about your day.

We do have to begin, to take that step. But, the end is what it is all about: The end result of our actions, the end result of words, the end result of our lives. Whether we allow the beginning to occur so that the end can be to His glory.

Again, thank you for join me this past month. I know it’s been intense having a blog post to read every day. Those of you who have commented and read along with me on this, thank you for your words, thank you for your thoughts and prayers. It means so much as a blogger to know that what you are saying is reaching someone.

I’ve put all of those posts together on one easy page, so that you can pin just ONE thing and have all of them together. That said, I also hope that you’ll continue to pray for me, as I begin to turn this collection of posts into my first ebook! Not sure when that will happen, but eventually it will.

Be sure to sign up for my newsletter to find out more about my future ebook, as well as to get an easy access for all of posts from this series.

We’ll be back to our regularly scheduled blogging soon. Tomorrow our first born is FOUR! so you can be sure there will be a birthday post, some Halloween cuteness, and some updates about things that have been going on in the White House. I even have a few giveaways already slated for the month of November, as well as some great gift ideas! See you on the blog!

Blessings!

From Busy to Blessing – Lending a Helping Hand

Do you have friends that are working on a large project? That could really use the helping hands of a few more people. Do you know how to fix a leak or build a deck? Offer your services! I can guarantee you that they won’t turn down the help.
From Busy to Blessing Lending a Helping Hand @JessicaMWhite.com
Friends of ours are in the process of a huge home renovation: They’ve hosted several Work Days inviting friends and family to come and lend a hand, in exchange for food and undying gratitude.

Yea, but isn’t that kind of weird?

What’s weird about asking for help? Isn’t that something we should all do more of, instead of pretending we’ve got it all together?

How about we stop feeling like we have to have it all together and give someone else the chance to turn around and bless others! Often we feel as though we can’t let people help us, but if no one lets anyone ever help them, then no one is blessing anybody else. {Got that? A bit of jumble there.}

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

I know for myself I struggle with this. And given the MASSIVE home renovation we’re thinking of taking on next year, I’ve already admitted that I’m going to have to swallow some pride and ask others to help. What’s going to work? Teamwork! {Name that show}.

We’re each given different talents by God. We sometimes just need to think outside of the box, and ourselves, to figure out how to reach out to our friends, to those who we should be able to ask anything of, but very often allow our pride to get in the way.

There are so many ways in which we can bless our friends, and the bottom line of all of it…doing something that lets them know that they are loved.

Click here to find more of my posts in this series: 31 Days | From Busy to Blessing

From Busy to Blessing – Blessing Friends by Planning the Fun!

Maybe you love to plan things; maybe you just like to organize; maybe you don’t but wish someone else would Even if this is not your forte, planning things that is, it is probably somebody’s.

For a long time I bemoaned the fact that no one invited ME to things…then I realized something: Umm..maybe I should invite them. I enjoy figuring out things to do, sending out invitations and calling places for information.

So I did. I started a Mom’s Night Out group: Got on Facebook, created a group, and invited a bunch of my local mom acquaintances. From Busy to Blessing Bringing the Fun! @JessicaMWhite.com

I love planning things. This takes the stress off of others, giving me the chance to use one of my skills, that I enjoy using, to bless others. All these ladies need to do, is throw out some suggestions and dates, then show up.

“A Friend Loves at ALL Times…” Proverbs 17:17

Know a single mom, or any mom for that matter, who could probably use a break? Offer to watch her kids for a couple of hours {you’re already caring for your own}. Swap daycare with friends. Sometimes this works better than others. I don’t dare subject anyone to my little hellions, err children, without me present; I don’t think anyone would be up for that, no matter how well meaning.

This of course can be something that you go out of your way to do, but it is also something that, with a little ingenuity, can be done with little to no extra effort! Think of things that you already have going on in your life, is it possible to include 1 or 2 more people in it. Inviting others to things that you are looking forward to is almost guaranteed to be a good time.

Doesn’t this cross into the hospitality area? Of course it does! Anything you do for someone else is hospitality; whether in your home or theirs or someplace else entirely. We are CALLED to be hospitable to others!

Click here to find more of my posts in this series: 31 Days | From Busy to Blessing