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This week we’ve talked about figuring out, or just asking, what your husband’s love language is…what things or actions make him feel the most loved and about putting those answer into action! Today we’re going to go a different direction in rediscovering your husband. One of the things that we’ve been doing over the past few weeks is being very intentional about asking the other questions.

Questions as simple as “What’s your favorite color?” “What’s your favorite meal?”…taking the questions way back to the basics, because, honestly, since the 15 years we last asked those simple questions, the answer may just have changed! I have a funny story to back this idea up:

My parents are going to be married 35 years in a few weeks. Growing up we ate a lot of broccoli {with cheese sauce or with fried bread crumbs}, a lot. At some point in the past 10 years my father admitted to my mom that he really doesn’t like broccoli. All these years he’s been choking down broccoli and my mom was unaware that he didn’t like it

My mom thought he liked it, he never said he didn’t. Communication fail! This is a big joke in our family, but it is so important to take to heart. How often do we just go through life, particularly our marriages, and make assumptions about the other person?! I know I’m guilty. The problem with doing this is two things. 1) We literally do not know anything about our husbands anymore and 2) We begin to look for the thrill of knowing someone somewhere else {which is never good}.

Where to begin? Google. There are tons of articles and blog posts with lists of questions to better know your spouse  The hardest part is to start asking the questions, because it is going to seem awkward at first to be asking your husband, who you are supposed to know simple questions, and it’s going to be uncomfortable to ask them the harder questions, but the questions need to be asked.

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*Find more posts from this series here: Pursuing Your Husband.

Yesterday we talked about learning what our husband’s love language is. They’re guys, we’re girls, so the chances is pretty good that what speaks love to us is different than our husband. If you’ve been able to pinpoint at least 1 or 2 ways in which your husband feels loved, I want you to spend a few minutes today thinking about what the application of that is going to look like {check out this website for more information}.

There may be certain things that you and your husband are complete opposites on…maybe he likes the house to be really tidy and you do what you can, or he’s bringing you little gifts, but you really don’t care much one way or another if you get a gift. Look at what you’re husband DOES DO for you, chances are if he’s doing them for you, it’s because that is his love language.

Reciprocate! If he is always telling you I love you or wanting to hug/kiss…be the one to initiate it! Turn around and say/do it first. If he likes the house tidy, take a few minutes extra and clear at least one space for him…I guarantee, even if he doesn’t say anything, he will notice it. It is in our nature to love people as we want to be loved.

If you’re at a point that you and your husband are pretty much two ships at sea and really not having much interaction. PURSUE YOUR HUSBAND! Ask him what is one thing you can do to make his day better. He may say nothing, he may say something, but then don’t hem and haw about what he asked….DO IT! You’re actually taking your husband at his word will show that he means something to you. Remember this whole pursuing your husband is not about you, it’s about loving your husband well.

If you’re looking for ideas to be romantic, to put your husband love language into action be sure to check out the book 1001 Ways to Be Romantic by Gregory Godek.  Tomorrow we’ll talk more about rediscovering WHO your husband is.

*Find more posts from this series here: Pursuing Your Husband.