Most of us see our spouses every day, some of us at least see each other a few times a week, and some go months without seeing one and other.  While Matthew and I were in college we were over 300 miles apart for several weeks on end, and when he shipped out with his school {he went to a maritime academy} he would be gone for 2+ months, with no communication {there was no email or cell phones}.

Near or far pursuing your husband through the written word is possible.

For much of our relationship, before being married, we were forced to communicate to each other through writing. We have boxes of the cards and letters we sent each other. For Matthew, there was nothing quite as thrilling as hearing your name shouted during mail call. For me, I loved opening the mailbox to find a letter posted with a foreign stamp.

Those words between us were treasured.

During our marriage we still took time to write each other cards and little notes. We fell out of habit of doing this over the past few years and we’ve both felt the loss. WRITE TO YOUR HUSBAND! Take 30 seconds and write on a post-it and stick it on his rear view mirror; send him an email; tuck a card in his briefcase. Something that lets him know that you’re thinking of him!

For many people texting is another way of writing to one another. Matt only just got texting on his phone last year {he’s behind the times}, so we NEVER texted! He only just got a smartphone 4 months ago, until then texts were far and few between.

We have been so much more intentional the past few weeks with sending each other texts. It helps us to be a presence in the other’s daily life, to talk without kids running around screaming at us, to feel that even when we’re apart the other is still thinking of us.

Tomorrow I’m going to share some ideas of WHAT to write to each other….so stay tuned!

 

*Find more posts from this series here: Pursuing Your Husband.

The obvious answer to why is it important that you continually be pursuing your husband is that: he is YOUR HUSBAND. You supposedly married this guy because you loved him enough to like the idea of spending the rest of your lives together. It was easy to love him then.

Then life happened.

Jobs, kids, responsibility, and it all just piled on. Bit by bit other things began to replace the time you used to spend loving each other. That’s life. That’s what happens, but it takes us being intentional to not let it happen. To not let our marriage go the way of the world.

^” So the Lord God banished him from the Garden of Eden to work the ground from which he had been taken.”
Genesis 3:23

The Bible doesn’t give us much detail as to what the actual departure from the Garden of Eden was. We’re told that God had sewn them clothes from skin and banished them from the Garden. There’s no elaboration of whether they were given a satchel of food, tools to work with or anything else. We do know that besides those clothes {a sign of their sin} the only thing they were permitted to walk out of that garden with was each other.

Marriage is the very likely the ONLY thing that Adam and Eve took with them. It was the two of them, and God, facing the world and all the trials and work ahead together.

Why is Marriage important?

Because it is the gift that we were permitted to take from Eden. It is the gift that helps us to understand God’s relationship between Jesus and Us. If we can realize that Marriage is indeed sanctifying, that God will do the greatest work in our lives with our husbands by our sides, we will have realized one of the greatest facets of our faith.

We need to pursue our husbands, because God has called us to love this person as Jesus loves His church. If we don’t pursue our husbands someone else will, and it won’t be something of God. It will be sin, because the only one in creation who can pursue our husbands as we can is Satan. The moment Satan realizes that we are no longer pursuing our spouses he knows that there is an emptiness felt in our and their hearts, an emptiness that he can fill with his lies.

Homework: Ask your husband what are two things that you can do to make him feel more loved by you?
Think about how you can go about doing one of those things this week.

 

*A bit of housekeeping: I want all of you who come across this series to feel free to contact me at any time, whether in the comments or through email {there’s a form at the bottom of this post}. I’m not the expert on any of this and I would love to hear your ideas or how you’re pursuing your husband. Feel free to share across social media with the hashtag #PursuingYourHusband; I’m constantly on Instagram.*